Consider this: If you had a problem and someone said, “there is a solution to this, faster and easier than you ever thought possible. Would you like to use it to solve your problem?” What do you think most people would answer? Yes, please?

In my experience most people say, “no, thank you”. We’re probably talking 9 out of 10. The challenges can be anything from personal problems to health issues. Fine by me. There’s free choice. I would never dream of discussing it or – heaven forbid – try to persuade anyone. But I can’t help wondering why so many choose the hard way rather than the easy way. So I’m going to turn the tables for a bit and look at reasons why we would say “no thanks”.

Now, what would be the benefit for me if I hold on to my challenge rather than resolve it fast and easy? And believe me, there are always benefits. Here are just a few of the more general ones:

If I hang on, I won’t have to change. If I change what will happen to me? What about my friends? My spouse? My work? My challenge is an integrated part of me and my personality. If it goes away, then who am I? These thoughts alone would keep many from resolving a challenge.

Here’s another: I’ve been having this challenge for 20, 30, 40 years. If it just goes away how can I justify having spent all these years on it? That too would keep many from choosing an easy way.

One more: If I can resolve my challenge fast and easy, how will I explain to people what happened? What will they think of me if I have suddenly found a solution?

Or this: If I am to resolve this issue, I may need to know what caused it. This could mean I have to look inside myself, and I don’t want to do that. It scares me. I sense that I carry with me experiences that will be very painful to release. I don’t want to touch them.

The easy way or the hard way, the choice is yours…